One of the most common questions I am asked is: How can I get my partner on board when it comes to our money goals?
There is no magic solution. I wish there was.
Life can be difficult when both parties in a relationship have different values, goals, beliefs and stories.
My husband and I could not be more opposite.
He likes heat, I like cold. I like quiet, he likes noise. I like clear, open, bright spaces. He likes dark colours and clutter. We spend a lot of time counting to 100 and compromising. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
One compromise we have made recently is that he now wears a hat during the night so that I can have the window open. If my hair grows any longer, we will both be wearing hats.
If you are struggling to communicate about money, here a few strategies to try and if they don't work, try something else.
- Celebrate the things you already agree on.
- Begin with the end in mind. What are you trying to achieve, how much money will you need, what is your big WHY, what does it look like to you? Write all of this down before having any type of conversation. This will help you get clarity on your thoughts and will help you say on track.
- Keep the conversations short and to the point. If things are not really going to plan, agree to talk again at a later date.
- Focus on yourself. The only thought processes you can change are your own. You cannot change other people but you can change your reaction.
- Explore your respective money stories. You may well both have completely different inherited beliefs.
- Make a joint vision board and put it somewhere that you will both see it. Every time you achieve something on the board, have a joint celebration. This will help your brain anchor in positive feelings around success and you will unconsciously want more of what makes you feel good.
Celebrate the good stuff, welcome all abundance into your life using my free tracker and most of all, BREATHE!